Day 3

13^th March

Reunir, sembrar, irrumpir

En 2022, en AWID celebramos los 40 años de nuestra fundación. Estamos aprovechando este momento para reflexionar sobre nuestro pasado y aprender sobre el camino transitado, como preparación para poner nuestra mira al futuro y construir trayecto de ahora en adelante. A medida que avanzamos a través de ciclos de crecimiento y retroceso, comprendemos que las luchas por los derechos de las mujeres y la justicia de género son iterativas y nunca lineales.

En colaboración con la artista Naadira Patel, creamos un álbum que resalta algunos momentos de las últimas cuatro décadas de apoyo a los movimientos feministas por parte de AWID. No hicimos todo eso solxs. Lo compartimos con profunda apreciación por la constelación de activistas y grupos feministas que hicieron posible ese trabajo. En este contexto de tantas crisis convergentes, escogimos esta oportunidad para celebrar el poder y la resiliencia de los movimientos feministas en el mundo.

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Communicating Desire

and Other Embodied Political Praxes

Communicating Desire

Host: We tend to think about communicating desire as something that is limited to the private intimacy of the bedroom and our personal relationships. But can we also think of this kind of communication as a structure, a praxis that informs our work, and how we are, how we do in the world?

Lindiwe
I believe that unfortunately in the past, expressing your sexuality has been limited. You were allowed to express it within the confines of your marriage, which was permitted, there have always been taboo and stigmas attached to expressing it any other way. When it comes to communicating, obviously the fact that certain stigmas are attached to expressing your sexuality or expressing your desire makes it a lot harder to communicate that in the bedroom or intimately with your partner. From my personal experience, I do believe that obviously if I feel more comfortable expressing myself outside of the bedroom on other matters or other topics, it’s easier for me to build that trust, because you understand conflict resolution with that particular person, you understand exactly how to make your communication special towards that particular person. It’s not easy. It’s something that is consistently done throughout whatever your engagement is, whether it’s your relationship or whether it’s casual and just in the moment. But I believe that confidence outside can definitely translate to how you communicate your desire.

Manal
Since childhood, a woman is raised with that, “you’re not allowed to talk about your body, you’re not allowed to talk about your desire,” which puts a heavy responsibility on women, especially girls in their teens when they need to express themselves and talk about these issues. So for me I think this is a big problem. You know, I have been married for more than 25 years, but still, until now, I cannot talk about my desires. I cannot say what I want or what I prefer, because it’s like I’m not allowed to go beyond this line. It’s like haram, despite it being my right. This is the case for all my friends, they just can’t express themselves in the right way.

Louise
Personally, I find that expressing our desires, my desires, however that expression comes in hand, has to do with the other, and the gaze that the other would have on me. So this is also something that we can link to cinema. And the gaze I would have on myself as well: what I think I am as an individual, but also what society expects of me and my sexuality. In the past, I somehow did the analogy between what happens in the bedroom and what happens in the workplace, because there is sometimes this dynamic of power, whether I want it or not. And oftentimes, verbal communication is harder than we think. But when it comes to representation in film, that’s a totally different game. We are very far away from what I guess all of us here would like to see on screen when it comes to just communicating sexual desires inside or outside the bedroom. 

Online and Embodied

Host: We can think about the digital world as embodied: while it might be virtual, it is not less real. And this was made clear in the context of AWID’s feminist realities festival, which took place entirely online. What does it mean then to talk about sexuality, collectively, politically, in online spaces? Do we navigate virtual spaces with our bodies and affects, and in this case, what are the different considerations? What does it do to communication and representation?

Lindiwe
Social media makes you feel community-based. When you express what it is that you want or like, there is someone who’s either going to agree or disagree, but those who do agree make you feel that you belong to a community. So it’s easier to throw it out into the universe, or for others to see, and potentially not get as much judgment. And I say this very loosely because sometimes, depending on what it is that you’re expressing, it either will get you vilified or celebrated. But when it comes to the bedroom, there is an intimacy and almost a vulnerability that is exposing you and different parts of you that is not as easy to give your opinion on. When it comes to expressing your desire, speaking it and saying it and maybe putting a Tweet or a social media post, or even liking and reading other communities that are same-minded is a lot easier than telling your partner, “this is how I want to be pleasured” or “this is how what I want you to do next,” because of the fear of rejection. But not only that, just the vulnerability aspect – allowing yourself to be bare enough to let the other person see into what you are thinking, feeling, and wanting – I think this is where the difference would come in for me personally. I feel it is a lot more community-based on social media, and it’s easier to engage in discourse. Whereas in the bedroom, you don’t want to necessarily kill the moment. But I think that also kind of helps you understand going forward, depending on the relationship with the person, how you would engage thereafter. So I always know that if I try to communicate something and I fail to do so in the moment, I can always try to bring it up outside of that moment and see what the reaction would be so I know how to approach it going forward.

Louise
You know the question in films is, I don’t know if the male gaze is done intentionally or not. Like we don’t really know that. What we know is that the reason why sexuality in general has been so heternormative and focused on penetration and not giving any space for women to actually ask for anything in films, is because most of the people who have been working in this industry and making decisions in terms of, you know, storytelling and editing have been white men. So rape revenge is this very weird film genre that was birthed in the 70s, and half of the story would be that a woman is being raped by one or multiple people, and in the other half, she would get her revenge. So usually she would murder and kill the people who have raped her, and sometimes other people next to them. At the beginning of the birth of this genre and for 30 years at least, those films were written, produced, and directed by men. This is why we also want so much representation. A lot of feminists and pioneers in queer filmmaking also used the act of filming in order to do that and to reclaim their own sexuality. I’m thinking about Barbara Hammer, who’s a feminist and queer pioneer in experimental cinema in the U.S. where she decided to shoot women having sex on 16mm, and by doing so reclaimed a space within the narrative that was exposed in film at that time. And there is also then the question of invisibilization: we know now, because of the internet and sharing knowledge, that women and queer filmmakers have been trying and making films since the beginning of cinema. We only realize it now that we have access to databases and the work of activists and curators and filmmakers.

Resisting Colonization

Host: And this opens up the conversation on the importance of keeping our feminist histories alive. The online worlds have also played a crucial role in documenting protests and resistance. From Sudan to Palestine to Colombia, feminists have taken our screens by storm, challenging the realities of occupation, capitalism, and oppression. So could we speak of communicating desire – the desire for something else – as decolonization?

Manal
Maybe because my village is just 600 residents and the whole village is one family – Tamimi – there are no barriers between men and women. We do everything together. So when we began our non-violent resistance or when we joined the non-violent resistance in Palestine, there was no discussion whether women should participate or not. We took a very important role within the movement here in the village. But when other villages and other places began to join our weekly protests, some men thought that if these women participate or join the protests, they will fight with soldiers so it will be like they’re easy women. There were some men who were not from the village who tried to sexually harass the women. But a strong woman who is able to stand in front of a soldier can also stand against sexual harassment. Sometimes, when other women from other places join our protest, they are shy at first; they don’t want to come closer because there are many men. If you want to join the protest, if you want to be part of the non-violent movement, you have to remove all these restrictions and all these thoughts from your mind. You have to focus on just fighting for your rights. Unfortunately, the Israeli occupation realizes this issue. For example, the first time I was arrested, I wear the hijab so they tried to take it off; they tried to take off my clothes, in front of everybody. There were like 300-400 people and they tried to do it. When they took me to the interrogation, the interrogator said: “we did this because we want to punish other women through you. We know your culture.” So I told him: “I don’t care, I did something that I believe in. Even if you take all my clothes off, everybody knows that Manal is resisting.”

Lindiwe
I think even from a cultural perspective, which is very ironic, if you look at culture in Africa, prior to getting colonized, showing skin wasn’t a problem. Wearing animal skin and/or hides to protect you, that wasn’t an issue and people weren’t as sexualized unless it was within context. But we conditioned ourselves to say, “you should be covered up” and the moment you are not covered up you are exposed, and therefore it will be sexualized. Nudity gets sexualized as opposed to you just being naked; they don’t want a little girl to be seen naked. What kind of society have we conditioned ourselves to be if you’re going to be sexualizing someone who is naked outside of the context of a sexual engagement? But environment definitely plays a big role because your parents and your grannies and your aunts say “no, don’t dress inappropriately,” or “no, that’s too short.” So you hear that at home first, and then the moment you get exposed outside, depending on the environment, whether it’s a Eurocentric or more westernized environment to what you are used to, then you are kind of free to do so. And even then, as much as you are free, there’s still a lot that comes with it in terms of catcalling and people still sexualizing your body. You could be wearing a short skirt, and someone feels they have the right to touch you without your permission. There is so much that is associated with regulating and controlling women’s bodies, and that narrative starts at home. And then you go out into your community and society and the narrative gets perpetuated, and you realize that you get sexualized by society at large too, especially as a person of color.

Resistance as Pleasure

Host: And finally, in what ways can our resistance be more than what we are allowed? Is there a place for pleasure and joy, for us and our communities?

Louise
Finding pleasure as resistance and resistance in pleasure, first for me there is this idea of the guerrilla filmmaking or the action of filming when you’re not supposed to or when someone told you not to, which is the case for a lot of women and queer filmmakers in the world right now. For example, in Lebanon, which is a cinema scene that I know very well, most of the lesbian stories that I’ve seen were shot by students in very short formats with “no production value” as the west would say – meaning with no money, because of the censorship that happens on an institutional level, but also within the family and within the private sphere. I would think that filming whatever, but also filming pleasure and pleasure within lesbian storytelling is an act of resistance in itself. A lot of times, just taking a camera and getting someone to edit and someone to act is extremely hard and requires a lot of political stance.

Lindiwe
I have a rape support group. I’m trying to assist women to reintegrate themselves from a sexual perspective: wanting to be intimate again, wanting to not let their past traumas influence so much how they move forward. It’s not an easy thing, but it’s individual. So I always start with understanding your body. I feel the more you understand and love and are proud of it, the more you are able to allow someone else into that space. I call it sensuality training, where I get them to start seeing themselves as not sexual objects, but as objects of pleasure and desire that can be interchangeable. So you’re worthy of receiving as well as giving. But that’s not only from a psychological point of view; it is physical. When you get out of the shower, you get out of the bath, and you’re putting lotion on your body, look at every part of your body, feel every part of your body, know when there are changes, know your body so well that should you get a new pimple on your knee, you are so aware of it because just a few hours ago it wasn’t there. So things like that where I kind of get people to love themselves from within, so they feel they are worthy of being loved in a safe space, is how I gear them towards claiming their sexuality and their desire.

Manal
You know we began to see women coming from Nablus, from Jerusalem, from Ramallah, even from occupied 48, who have to drive for 3-4 hours just to come to join the protests. After that we tried to go to other places, talk with women, tell them that they don’t have to be shy, that they should just believe in themselves and that there is nothing wrong in what we are doing. You can protect yourself, so where is the wrong in participating or in joining? Once I asked some women, “why are you joining?” And they said, “if the Tamimi women can do it, we can do it also.” To be honest I was very happy to hear this because we were like a model for other women. If I have to stand for my rights, it should be all my rights, not just one or two. We can’t divide rights.

Par Nkhensani Manabe

Le titre de la conversation « Pansexuel, Gynasexuel ou Abrosexuel ? Une plongée dans la queerness, le plaisir et la positivité sexuelle » donne matière à réflexion. Tiffany Kagure Mugo, auteure, éducatrice et programmatrice de HOLAAfrica, commence la discussion par une lecture de Touch, une collection récemment publiée d'essais de fiction et de non-fiction sur le sexe, la sexualité et le plaisir. Dans cet extrait, l'auteure avance l'idée que le plaisir est constant et continu, qu'il se retrouve dans les activités quotidiennes et ne se limite pas aux relations sexuelles.

Cette idée, du plaisir faisant autant partie de la vie quotidienne qu'autre chose, guide la discussion, couvrant également les thèmes du désir, de l'attirance et de l'orientation sexuelle.

Dès le départ , il y a ce sentiment d'espoir et de possibilité. Tiffany présente des options et explique les alternatives, nous donnant un nouveau langage pour parler de qui nous sommes, de ce que nous aimons et de comment nous le voulons. Il est question de désir et de sexe, mais surtout de connaissance de soi et d'autonomisation. Tiffany parle avec passion du fait de prendre des décisions à partir d'un lieu de pouvoir : apprendre de sa propre identité afin de pouvoir faire les meilleurs choix pour soi-même.

Dans une discussion ouverte et libre, représentant l'attitude que Tiffany voudrait que nous adoptions tou·te·s, nous apprenons que les savoirs sur le sexe et la sexualité sont en constante évolution, et que leurs limites se déplacent. Ce qu’on a peut-être appris ou, plus important encore, ce dont nous avons été tenus à l'écart en tant qu'enfants ou adultes, est précisément le point de départ pour désapprendre et se déprogrammer. Tiffany souligne que les jeunes de nos jours ont besoin d'outils pour comprendre les expériences qu'iels vivent déjà, un rappel sur le fait de ne jamais sous-estimer ce que les enfants et les adolescent·e·s savent sur le type de plaisir(s) qu’iels poursuivent dans la vie.

La conversation m’a ouvert l’esprit sur un point : me connaître m'aidera à prendre confiance en moi ; je pourrai aborder les relations en prenant soin non seulement de moi-même mais des autres. Apprendre le langage de l'orientation, de l'attirance, du désir et du plaisir contribuera à approfondir mes relations futures. J'ai apprécié le fait d'avoir un espace pour réfléchir à cet aspect de ma vie - ces parties privées et intimes auxquelles je n'accède pas souvent. L'enthousiasme de Tiffany pour le plaisir et l'identité a repoussé mes propres limites et m’a permis d'ouvrir de nouvelles possibilités personnelles.

L'idée d'apprendre à établir des liens holistiques n'est pas encore courante. Globalement, nous vivons dans une culture de connexions instantanées et éphémères. Il n'y a pratiquement jamais de temps pour réfléchir réellement à la  raison et au  type de relation ou de partenariat que nous recherchons - du moins, pas avant une période de crise.

Bien sûr, il existe des espaces dédiés à accueillir les questions et les discussions, tels que le festival AWID Crear Résister Transform et d'autres plateformes ou publications en ligne de pensée libre - mais l'accès à l'information à partir d'une source utile et sans jugement est toujours laborieux . Cela peut être dû en partie au fait que les gens ne font  pas confiance au langage de la sexualité et du plaisir.

La notion de langage et d'outils se répète tout au long de la présentation. Tiffany et ses collègues assurent la fonction de parler, d'enseigner et d’alimenter. Voir ce dont les personnes  ont besoin, où elles  se trouvent, ce qu'elles  veulent pour elles-mêmes et marcher à leurs côtés pendant qu'elles construisent leurs mondes idéaux. Leur donner de nouveaux mots et définitions pour les aider à façonner leurs identités à différentes étapes de leur vie.

Les conversations de ce type sont nécessaires, même dans une société qui diffuse à tout moment une myriade de messages sur la santé, plus ou moins détaillés. Les gens ont parfois besoin d’être tirés à l'écart pendant les grands moments collectifs et encouragés à connaître leurs opinions et leurs désirs individuels. C'est ce que fait le discours de Tiffany : il donne aux gens un espace au sein du plus grand puzzle.

Un des points phares de l’intervention de Tiffany était la partie sur les différents types d'attractions.

Sexuel - signifie le désir exprimé d'avoir des relations avec une ou plusieurs personnes
Sensuel - le désir de toucher une ou plusieurs personnes, d'être physiquement proche sans nécessairement avoir des rapports sexuels
Romantique - le désir de sortir ou d'être en relation avec une ou plusieurs personnes
Platonique - le désir de nouer des amitiés étroites
Esthétique - le désir de regarder et d'apprécier l'apparence d'une ou de plusieurs personnes

Ces cinq types ou niveaux d'attraction offrent un raccourci du désir et du plaisir, et aident à contextualiser les différents types de plaisir que les gens peuvent éprouver.

Penser l'attirance au-delà du physique ou du sexuel offre une nouvelle perspective sur les liens. C'est une chance de relâcher la pression sur les relations, ouvrant des opportunités pour des partenariats différents, plus éclairés et épanouissants.

Cette liberté et ces connaissances soulignées par Tiffany constituent une feuille de route pour l'avenir. La présentation a ainsi offert une perspective nouvelle sur ce qui est possible.

Comme le soulignait l'extrait d'ouverture, le plaisir est continu. À la lumière de la discussion de Tiffany, il devient clair que le plaisir  est également dynamique et excitant. Il y a toujours plus à apprendre.

Cela peut être intimidant au début, mais de l'autre côté de l'hésitation, il y a de l'espoir, du potentiel et de la liberté.

Accessibility and Health

Continuez à explorer Incarnations transnationales

Cette édition du journal, en partenariat avec Kohl : a Journal for Body and Gender Research (Kohl : une revue pour la recherche sur le corps et le genre) explorera les solutions, propositions et réalités féministes afin de transformer notre monde actuel, nos corps et nos sexualités.

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Para darle visibilidad a la complejidad de la dotación de recursos para las diversas formas de organización feministas.

To my beloved Feminist collective,

I have belonged to you for as long as I can remember. As a young girl, I did not know there was a word -feminist- for us people, who aspire to overcome and dismantle the patriarchy, who seek refuge in the arms of inclusion and intersectionality, who treat people as equals regardless of their gender, race, sexuality, religion, and ethnicity, who are constantly learning to do better, to be better and to use their privilege to uplift others. 

When I was 14, my middle school French teacher, a 6ft tall thirty-year-old man, assaulted a female student in my class in front of all of us. The student, who was a childhood friend of mine, and several girls in my class went to the headmaster to report him, parents got involved, and the entire class of 30 students vouched for the girl. But all our attempts to hold him accountable failed and the administration covered up the girl’s story and he never got fired or persecuted. The girls in my class and I were outraged so we did what every young raging feminist would do. WE EGGED HIS CAR! and though the eggs get washed off easier and the paint we used to write “Pig” and “Khamaj '' -scumbag- needed to get scrubbed off. I will never forget how that made us girls feel. Liberated, enraged, happy, close-knit, and in power. The same feeling replicates in every feminist setting I have been in ever since. The teen feminist in me grew up to join Women Deliver, AWID, Unootha, facilitate feminist workshops at university, and even get persecuted for my feminist affiliation at 19, but that’s another story for another letter.

Feminist movements and spaces offer me safety and empowerment. They are the mothers we wished we had and the link we needed to connect and organize ourselves despite our differences against a common enemy that has been undermining everyone, patriarchy. It is through you that I learned to be resilient and to gather my strengths and skills and direct them towards uplifting others and bringing to light the marginalized and giving a voice to the voiceless.  

What I love most about you, feminist movements is that you mess up sometimes, you disregard and marginalize as well, you have bias as does every other movement but what makes you different is that you always strive to be better. Accountability is not something you’re afraid of and you are an ever-changing collective that reflects how altruism and philanthropy in the effort of gender equity change as time passes. 

May you always grow, may you do better, may you always rage, may you always roar, may you always love, may you always speak different tongues, and may you always be in power. 

Love, light, and rage, 
Lina

La Convocatoria de Actividades enumera una lista de sugerencias para formatos y metodologías. Sé creativx y asegúrate de leer la sección «Lo que debes saber».

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